Summer is here, and it's time to start a plan for more romance, better sex, and deeper intimacy with your mate. Recommit to romance and fall in love all over again.
We all want to have fulfilling, passionate relationships with our partners, but sometimes life can get in the way of that. Between work, kids, and errands, passion and excitement can fall by the wayside, along with communication, tenderness and romance. Get back on track by making your partner a priority and falling in love with your partner all over again.
Ready to get steamy? Try this 30-day program for a happier, sexier you this summer.
Day One: No More Shoulds
How often do you use the word “should”? If you are like most people, you are “should-ing” all over the place. Not only can overuse of the word break down communication, but it can also put unhealthy expectations in your head, such as, “He should have known I wanted to go out to dinner tonight,” “We should be more like my sister and her husband,” “I should lose 10 pounds before I even think of putting on lingerie,” or “We should have a nicer house.”
Forget the negativity and banish the “shoulds.” Stop comparing yourself with other people or expecting your partner to live up to unrealistic expectations. Instead, be proactive and in the moment. Remember, no one ever improves their relationship with negative energy … so no more “shoulds”!
Day Two: Re-think Dinner
Find more joy in your daily life by unleashing your inner kid. Instead of making the typical chicken and veggies for dinner, use your imagination and make dinner a little out-of-the-box. You can do so by preparing a new cuisine, or even better, just let your inner kid pick the meal. Make ice-cream sundaes for dinner, complete with sprinkles, whipped cream, and hot fudge — and feed each other to up the sex appeal and make the occasion sensual. And forget the boring dining room: Get comfortable in the living room and spread a blanket on the floor. Come up with crazy combinations and try each other’s creations. Sometimes little things like this are the best way to get out of a rut and reconnect with your partner in a fun, sensual way.
Day Three: Spend Time With His Friends
Okay, so the thought of a bunch of guys in your living room might not be appealing, but it’s important to stay connected with the friends whom your partner holds near and dear to his heart. It’s a good way to make sure that you are on the same page and that you share common ground outside of your relationship. Plus, he will love to see you making an effort to include his friends in your life. So, invite his buddies over for a backyard barbecue and get to know more about your partner’s crazy college days, or go on a double date with his best bud and his wife or partner. He will repay the favor when it’s your turn to have the girls over, and it will give you a chance to see another side of him. You might find out that he is the group’s go-to guy for career advice or that he is a good listener when his buddies are in trouble. Who knows?
Day Four: Dump Your Withholds
Sometimes people think that it's best to avoid fighting at all costs. As a result, they keep their thoughts tucked away deep inside so that their partner doesn't get upset or so that an argument doesn't break out. However, withholding your true emotions can actually backfire and lead to bigger (and more serious) fights in the long run. Your partner will be able to pick up on your negative energy and tension, and more importantly, you will be unable to be present and happy in your relationship. This is why dumping your withholds can actually be the best thing, even if it does come with the risk of a minor fracas. Be frank and open in the moment instead of letting things fester, and ask your partner to do the same. Wipe that slate clean rather than allowing resentments to pile up — all that baggage will get hard to carry after a while.
Day Five: Get Physical
When was the last time you and your partner connected in a physical way? Outside of the bedroom, that is! Breaking a sweat might not sound sexy, but the truth is that physical activity can improve your circulation, up your endorphins, and, of course, burn calories. Challenge your partner to a race around the block, or have a rough-and-tumble game of tag in the backyard. If that’s not your style, don’t worry. There are plenty of other activities that couples can enjoy together. You could take a tandem bike ride or play Frisbee in the park. Or you could take a hike and bring a picnic to enjoy with Mother Nature. Just remember, physical health and sexual health go hand-in-hand, so if you want to improve your sex life, you should start by getting more exercise and staying fit.
Wednesday, January 22, 2020