Getting busy later in life doesn't have to be a snore. Read on to learn how to have a happy and healthy sex life at any age.
When it comes to sex after 40, one of the biggest misconceptions is that age will sour your sex life. But in reality, “many women in midlife say the quality of sex is better than ever because they know themselves and what pleases them," says Barb DePree, MD, a gynecologist and director of women's midlife services at Holland Hospital in Holland, Michigan. "Plus, they feel an intimacy and connection with their partner that’s unique to an older stage of life."
Read on to discover six more sex myths doctors hear all the time — and the truth about how to have a satisfying sex life at any age or stage.
Myth #1: Menopause Steals Your Sex Drive
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Myth #2: Men Always Want Sex
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In addition to normal aging, something else could be affecting him physically or emotionally, such as stress, side effects of certain medications, and health concerns such as high blood pressure or diabetes. Suggest that he see a doctor to rule out medical and emotional issues.
Myth #3: Sex After Menopause Hurts Too Much to Feel Good
The Truth:The Journal of The North American Menopause Society.
The good news is there's a lot you can do to make intercourse appealing. Over-the-counter lubricants and moisturizers or a prescription estrogen cream can rejuvenate the vagina to make sex feel good again. If these solutions don’t help, ask your doctor if oral hormone therapy is a good option for you.
Myth #4: I'm Not Capable of Having Orgasms
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“Some couples have never really developed the art of foreplay, which is especially important to help women orgasm during sex,” says DePree. Don't be afraid to tell your partner that you need more kissing, breast fondling, and more direct stimulation of the clitoris.
Myth #5: Once You Use a Vibrator, You Can't Orgasm Without It
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Myth #6: Condoms Are for Teenagers
The Truth:The Journal of Sexual Medicine
Condoms have come a long way since you were a teen in terms of texture, shape, and lubricant (both inside and outside the condom). “Spend a little time on condom websites to educate yourself about the latest innovations, and then try a couple different options,” suggets Dr. Reece. Once you’re in a monogamous relationship, you and your partner should both get screened for STDs before ditching protection.