Sometimes it takes a little more than just being "in the mood" to reach the big O. Try these tips to find the satisfaction you seek in the sack.
An orgasm is a physical and emotional sensation caused by a series of rhythmic contractions of the pelvic floor muscles, the penis, the vagina, and sometimes the uterus as well. Orgasm typically follows a build-up of muscle tension and an increase in blood flow to the genitals, creating a feeling of sexual excitement.
Significant differences exist between men’s and women’s experience of orgasm. Males generally achieve orgasm easier than females, in part because of anatomy. Only about one third of women regularly have orgasms during sexual intercourse alone — most women need direct stimulation of the clitoris as well. Most men don’t have problems reaching orgasm because male orgasm and ejaculation are biologically built into the male sexual response cycle, explains Cynthia Lief Ruberg, LPCC (licensed professional clinical counselor) and a certified sex therapist in Columbus, Ohio.
While women might not have orgasms as effortlessly as men, orgasms can be as intense and satisfying for both sexes. Here are eight ideas to help you reach a better climax.
Concentrate on Your Breathing
Women can take physical and psychological steps to make it easier to have orgasms and make climaxing more reliable, Ruberg says. One physical step is to concentrate on your breathing. Many people find that if they vary their breathing pattern from slow and deep to short and quick it adds to sexual arousal and can help trigger orgasm.
Get in Touch With Your Body
Another way to have better orgasms is by becoming an expert on your own body, Ruberg says. Some women don’t climax because they’ve never learned what excites them sexually. When you’re having sex, pay attention to what kind of touch gives you the most pleasure, Ruberg suggests. Then tell or show your partner what you like — and what you don’t like. Remember, only about 35 percent of women achieve female orgasm
Appreciate Your Body
“If people don’t like their bodies, they will probably be thinking about how they look during sex rather than being in the moment,” Ruberg says. Obsessing over your body’s flaws interferes with your sexual response. In the movies, men may get turned on by a perfect body
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