If there's more snoozing than lovemaking going on under your covers, a number of romance wreckers could be to blame. It's time to make bedtime fun again!
Your relationship started out hot — you couldn’t keep your mind (or hands) off him, and you had sex anytime you could sneak it in (you vixen, you!). But after a while, the frequency of those middle-of-the-night romps, lusty daydreams, and racy text messages began to dwindle.
What happened? Most couples tend to tone down new-relationship-sex after they’ve been seeing each other for a while, explains Chris Sterrett, MD, of the Holtorf Medical Group in Pasadena, Calif. In fact, 10 to 20 percent of romantic relationships in the United States are described as “sexless
But the reasons why
You're Too Darn Tired
Rise and shine, go to work, wow the boss, come home, whip up dinner — phew! We’re exhausted just thinking about it. And by the time you’re ready to hit the sack, all you want to do is sleep. That’s because physical exhaustion can do a number on your sex drive
Rutter’s solution? Give morning sex a whirl! “If you can both run to get some mouthwash first, morning sex can be great,” Rutter says. “Men typically wake with an erection, so half the work is done.”
Low on Estrogen? Could Mean Low on Libido
When women reach their forties, their estrogen levels begin to decrease. “Low estrogen in women can lead to a lower libido
If hormone changes are lowering your libido, talk to your doctor. Lubricants are a simple sex aid to come by — and hormone replacement therapy is another option (but it does come with risks as well as benefits).